Your Purpose in Life

Do you know your purpose in life?

I know what it is and I haven’t even met you! At the highest level we are all here to do the same thing. If you stop for a moment and look at everything happening around you—you will spot your purpose. Everything is doing it.

We all get caught up in consuming and forget our true purpose. We get stuck. We flounder. We keep ourselves busy trying to avoid our true nature. Our school system teaches us to deny our purpose. The entire social system seems designed to distract us from our most innate drives.

The greatest accomplishment you will ever make is to let yourself be yourself and stop procrastinating. What is it you are waiting for? Just make it happen. Start working on it this very minute. You know what I am talking about, don’t you? That book you’ve been meaning to write isn’t going to write itself. That business you’ve always wanted to launch, isn’t going to magically appear. That person you want in your life isn’t going to just knock on your door.

Get out there an go after it—this is your moment right now!

I don’t know the details of your specific mission.

But I do know this…

Your purpose in life is to create.

You are a God, but for some reason no one told you that.

 

Living a Linear Life

Our lives have a clear beginning and an end, but that is only obvious when we look at the lives of others. We don’t see (or at least remember) the beginning or end of our own lives.

In Slaughterhouse Five by Kurt Vonnegut the main character Billy Pilgrim does not live his life linear. He jumps around in time. He knows what is going to happen next. This perspective would help us see what is important.

As a parent of school age children this passage kicked me in the solar plexus:

The moonlight came into the hallway through doorways of the empty rooms of Billy’s two children, children no more. They were gone forever. Billy was guided by dread and the lack of dread. Dread told him when to stop. Lack of it told him when to move again.

His children weren’t dead. It was his daughter’s wedding night. But Kurt’s observation is correct they are gone forever… as children.

Since Billy’s life wasn’t linear, maybe the children weren’t gone forever. He may see them again.

When Billy is kidnapped by space aliens and taken to the planet Tralfamadore he learns Tralfamadorians experience time all at once, seeing everything that has happened, is happening, and will happen. I suspect that is the way time is, and our linear experience of it is just an illusion.

One day we will find out.

But until then, savor every moment. Once they are gone they are gone forever… or maybe not.

 

 

Creating Your Life

The first step in creating the life you want is to imagine the life you want. You can’t create something if you don’t know what it looks like. This isn’t pseudo-science or magic; it is common sense. If you start a journey without a plan you’ll end up somewhere you didn’t expect.

The more detail you can see in your minds eye, the better your chance of creating exactly what you want.

So imagine your perfect life and write it down:

  • Your relationships – What kind of people do you want in your life? What kind of people don’t you want in your life?
  • How do you want to be, think, and feel? Strong? Confident? Happy? Present? Calm? Peaceful? Smart? Social? Funny?
  • What do you want to build? A career? A business? A work of art? An invention? An organization? A charity? Imagine it in every detail
  • What will you need to accomplish your goals? What kind of people? Financial resources? Imagine it all in place working to meet your goal
  • Where do you want to be? Somewhere warm? The mountains? An island? A faraway country? A hobby farm? Imagine your environment.

If you do this, you’ll have done more than most people will ever do in a lifetime. Few people have even taken the time to imagine what it is that they want from life. Most people just go along with whatever is in front of them now. They live other people’s plans and dreams.

This act of imagining and creating your life is what you were meant to do. Don’t make yourself do it. Let yourself do it. It is you true nature. Somewhere along the line at home or in school or somewhere else we were were taught to block this part of ourselves. Remove the block and let your true self shine.

You are the creator of your life!

Allowing Life to Happen

You only control one thing – yourself. All other control is an illusion.

Sure you can influence, manipulate, or even threaten others in an attempt to control them but ultimately the decision is theirs, not yours.

If you look closely at all methods of external control there is always violence implied. All violence creates emotional damage and a disconnection from your true self. Much of this violence we experience in our lives is not physical but psychic. The purpose of this violence is to control.

So isn’t the solution to ending violence giving up the illusion that we can control others? See, we can’t control others, we can only hurt them.

Also, don’t most of your negative feelings arise from your desire to control something that you can’t control?

The answer is to let go.

Let go of your need to control and allow life to happen.

Just try it for a day…

 

Your Inner Life

Your inner life is where the magic happens. Where do you experience your happiness? Where is your sadness? Where does your creativity come from? It all comes from inside of you.

Your inner life creates your external reality. Yes, sure, apparently random things come at you from the outside, but if you stop and examine them closely you may find that there is a seed of thought or doubt or fear inside you that created that random event.

We like to take credit for the good things in our life and blame the bad things on others, but in truth we own both the good and the bad.

If you want to change the world around you, the first place to start is inside yourself. Build inner beauty first and it will create beauty everywhere you look. Give up negativity and selfishness and focus on helping others succeed. Use every talent you have to benefit others and your world will change.

 

 

How Things SHOULD Be

I feel sadness when I see someone criticize another who has given their best effort, who has created something they are proud of, only to be told it isn’t good enough.

How do you feel when you hear people criticizing others? How do you feel when you hear others complain that this or that isn’t fair? When you hear others talk about how things SHOULD be, but aren’t? Do you do it too?

If you do…

STOP IT!

You are hurting yourself and everyone around you.

All this does is release negative energy into the world. It doesn’t make anything better for you or anyone else.

So what do you do?

Look for what is right in others. Focus on their strengths. Focus on what you can contribute. Help others contribute.

When you complain about how things SHOULD be, you are pointing the finger at someone else and blaming them for your feelings.

You are denying reality.

Things are exactly as they should be right now.

Finding Your Passion

How many of you are doing something you are passionate about? The difference between mediocrity and ‘insanely great’ is only your level of passion.

How many of you have that hollow feeling in your chest when you think about your work? The work is empty, the feeling is empty, but you do it for the paycheck.

And how many of you get up everyday with an insatiable desire to create the object of your passion? A passion that borders on obsession? What is it you need to do that would create the endless energy that will drive you to greatness? Are you doing that thing? Are you even spending an hour a day on it?

Much of the corporate world today has become about process and governance and maximizing your FTEs and reducing headcount and driving out cost. It is increasingly unstable, political, and soul sucking.

If you’re there doing that grind day after day, why? Or at least why not start to build something better for yourself?

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.” – Steve Jobs commencement address at Stanford University, June 12, 2005

So meditate or pray on it. Look deep inside yourself. What does your heart say? Your intuition? What is it telling you? Don’t look to the external world. Your passion is already inside you. Listen for it and act.

 

Obstacles in Your Mind

Do you have days when everywhere you turn you hear negativity about change,  social status, money, and ego. Or you hear complaints about how incompetent or stupid someone is?

Your social instincts may tell you to join in and pile on and have an old fashioned bitch session. But what good does it do? It does nothing for you or anyone else. Did you know the value of venting is a myth? Venting damages you.

How do you combat this? You make a decision to stay positive and you reframe everything you are experiencing.

Tell yourself:

What is happening now is exactly what is supposed to happen right now. This is my reality and there is something here I need to experience or something I need to learn. This negativity is just a reflection of  this person’s fear or insecurity. I will let it go.

Joining the negativity will build obstacles in your mind. These obstacles are created by your thoughts. Stop creating your own obstacles.

What You Really Are

Let’s start with a list of what you are NOT:

  • A body
  • A mind
  • A career
  • A bank account
  • A credential hanging on the wall
  • A resume

These are not what you are. These are just tools you can use.

You are a spirit, part of a universal consciousness that has always been and will always be.

Your spirit uses…

  • A body to move and communicate and build things in the external reality
  • A mind to think and reason and create
  • A career to to provide value to others
  • Money to establish and exchange value with others
  • A resume and education to validate credibility to yourself and others

Your body and mind (which are actually one) are the vehicle for your spirit. That spirit is manifested in your consciousness. When you say “I think” your spirit is the “I” that is using your mind to think. The “I” you refer to when you think is what you really are.

Throughout time, that “I” has been in many vehicles and commanded many lives.

The purpose of this blog is to explore the power of you and “I” and our spiritual journey, our many lives, and our consciousness…

This Life and Beyond